How To Tame a Really Scary Conflict Before It Spins Out of Control

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Unwanted and upsetting conflicts happen. They’re as old as human history.

A client of mine named Christine encountered a difficult conflict one time. She didn’t know what to do until she came to counseling and got some ideas. Perhaps you can relate to her story: Continue reading

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Storm Watch! 4 Ways to Get Ready

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It’s awful to think of Hurricane Irma approaching our shores on the heels of Harvey. Folks in Irma’s way are preparing for trouble. They’re fleeing homes they may never see again. Normal changed fast for these people (and they will need our help).

Last night, my husband said, “If we had to evacuate due to a storm, what would we take?” I didn’t know. I hadn’t thought about it. Continue reading

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4 Things You Must Do to Recover when Disaster Rocks Your World


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Historic rainfall brought disaster to Houston last week. America looked on with compassion then pitched in to help. I’ve done something to help. Have you?

As epic tragedy befell Texas, smaller catastrophes rocked the private worlds of people living elsewhere. Continue reading

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Want More than “Awesome” from Monday’s Eclipse? Try This.

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This picture shows me enjoying Monday’s TOTAL solar eclipse with husband Charlie and others not shown.  Everyone present marveled to see the sun hidden by the moon’s silhouette and experience midday darkness.

We all said “Awesome!” Continue reading

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6 Ways to Thrive (Not Just Survive) after You Fail

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Last week I described my friend’s pain after she suffered a setback and thought of herself as a failure. Her suffering caused me to think how badly we need to know and remember the truth about failing. I discussed five related truths in last week’s post, which you can read here.

Today’s post builds on that discussion Continue reading

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Feeling Dumb? Read This to Feel Better!


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A few weeks ago I attended a lunch reunion with a group of friends. The event began joyfully.

However, the mood grew somber when one friend revealed that an important part of her life had fallen apart. She said through tears, “I feel like such a failure” Continue reading

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6 Steps to Finally Making the Change You Want

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People say leopards don’t change their spots. True, but we’re not leopards. People change.

Can you think of some change you’d like to make to improve your life? Have you struggled to make that happen? It helps when you understand the change process. Continue reading

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5 Effective Ways To Achieve Your Most Important Goals

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A few years ago I accepted an invitation to go blueberry picking with two beloved family members, Dee and Frank. We had a splendid time taking in scenery and gathering blueberries on top of a beautiful North Carolina mountain. I remember our mountaintop experience with joy. I remember our trip up that mountain with horror! Continue reading

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10 Simple Ways To Improve Your Health and Connect With People Around You

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My husband  and I recently completed an exhausting road trip, but one break from the road became an oasis. Continue reading

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3 Simple Steps To Build The Deeply Satisfying Life You’ve Always Wanted


I created this website because I believe in love – not the kind we wait on, but the kind we do. Proactive  love has the power to move mountains and heal lives.

Running, hiding, and blaming others for our problems causes us to lose in life.  On the other hand, intentional love enables us to win . Here’s how that happened for one of my clients (really a composite of clients) whom we’ll call Bryan: Continue reading

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